Follow what lights you up - what you’re fascinated with.

"What helped me move through these difficult parts of my journey was to stay connected to desire and pleasure. I focused on what I loved and the direction I wanted to go, instead of focusing on the shitty circumstances my life was in. I shifted my focus to finding my inspiration! 

I have two favorite ways to stay in fascination and curiosity to find what truly inspires my highest self. The first is to learn what turns me on. Yes TURN ON. Sexually, sensually, intellectually, energetically, physically. I can bet that if you’re reading this now, there is at least a small part of your life that you feel disconnected from. That’s ok and totally normal. You’ve picked up this book for a reason. I also am going to guess that you don’t want to be ordinary. You want extraordinary. So keep asking yourself and exploring what are the things, people, places, experiences, ways of living that truly turn you on in life?

The second way to stay curious is to follow the synchronicities. A lot of time they are already happening right under our noses. Trust your guidance, it has taken you to exactly where you need to be already for you to have this book in your hands. To meet the people who you’re closest with. You’re already living the life that you’ve created. You wanted it for some reason. What synchronicities are you experiencing in your life now?  Sometimes it’s the big ones, but usually more importantly, it’s the small ones. Set your intention to follow this inspiration like breadcrumbs to your soul’s purpose." - Chapter 1, Blame It On My Soul

Who you become by following your dream is more important than the actual dream.

"As you imagine your possibilities, remember you are born worthy to bring your dreams into reality. You, yes just YOU are ENOUGH. Dream about what’s possible, then take action to just go for it. No matter what. That’s when we hit the dream jackpot! From there, no matter what happens, you have already won. The journey itself becomes gold. Play the “what if” game with yourself or loved ones. I love doing this while in a beautiful environment, maybe with a candle lit. What if I owned a fifty-eight-foot catamaran? What if I traveled the world for a year? What if I had ten millions dollars ready to be spent? What if I could support any nonprofit with a monthly donation for the rest of my life? What if I woke up every day grateful for what I have? What if… Go back and forth with a friend or journal until you feel complete in becoming aware of all your wildest dreams. Watch your energy rise! You may find some dreams are bigger or smaller. No matter their size, they matter. By going through this process, you’ll discover who you get to become for those dreams to actualize. 

This process will reveal what is important to you. You may see where you lived out of integrity in the past, like when I look back to my injuries and see how much I was pushing my body beyond what was healthy or needed for the sake of becoming the best dancer. The gaps are there to support you in taking the more aligned path that will lead you closer to your dreams. Be easy on yourself while opening to all the possibilities. It usually is not about being there right away. It’s about the journey and who you become along the way. Like me desiring to be the most graceful dancer, it happened over the years of studying, not when I was a teenager comparing myself to every other girl in the ballet studio. When I pushed myself too much because I felt like “I wasn’t there yet,” things started to crumble with my disordered eating and the injuries. Even if you don’t have the evidence that these possibilities could in fact become your reality down the road, hold onto the belief that it’s all available for you. Soon enough, the light at the end of the tunnel will become the doorway to the next tunnel you get to journey through." - Chapter 2, Blame It On My Soul

In order to transform, leave the old behind. Let go of people, places, things, and habits that aren’t bringing inspiration into your life. 

"What is your intuition guiding you towards? Check in before you make any decision. Utilize the knowledge of yourself and your values to inform your decision making so you can be intentional with your truth. This is a practice that takes some time before it becomes an automatic habit. Before it goes on auto, you must continuously ask yourself every step of the way whether you are fully owning responsibility and whether you’re in your true alignment. Allow yourself time to slow down so you can really listen to your inner compass. Go intuitively slow. This will help you clarify your aligned path. 

This clarity is something I wish I could have tapped into before my accident. Perhaps I would have taken a pause to really think about the actions I was taking getting in the car and turning the steering wheel towards the center divide. Your intuition can be heard most clearly when you’re in your true, authentic alignment. Even when undesirable circumstances are happening in your life, take a moment to check in with yourself to choose the best path moving forward." - Chapter 3,  Blame It On My Soul

It’s not going to be rainbows and unicorns. Commit to the journey, don’t commit to the outcome to receive the true gift of commitment.

"Have you ever achieved a dream, brought it into reality and then found yourself on the other side thinking... What now? When I finally experienced the feeling and the vision I had been waiting so long to create with my music, I found myself wondering; what happens after my biggest dream gets accomplished? Was that the closest I’d get to creating impact? Was there more for me? It can turn you all sorts of crazy if your dream was the one and only thing you’ve been following this whole time. So what’s next for you? What happens after your biggest dream gets accomplished? Are you just done? Was that it? Was that your biggest moment you were going to experience in your lifetime? Is there a new dream that you should be following or chasing after instead? Again, it’s all about tapping into your intuition and visions to create the clear path you want to walk and commit to the journey." - Chapter 4, Blame It On My Soul

Understand what you have been able to gain from not taking responsibility. Is it worth it?

"Become aware of what you haven’t been taking responsibility for, then forgive yourself. The journey is long and beautiful. Take your unique path to standing up for yourself, even if no one else is watching. During my experience of making love to the Universe I realized I wasn’t allowing myself to fully experience the pleasures of life. Before the retreat, I may have blamed others for the lack of pleasure I was experiencing. Now I was finally able to realize that it was coming from me all along. I was reminded of my desired life, filled with pleasure and play. I was ready to believe that I could create this for myself, wherever I was. Tapping into my authentic pleasure reminded me of dancing in my bedroom in my undies and blasting my favorite 90s pop song. No one is watching. These moments I’m just being me. For me. 

The deeper I go on this journey of taking responsibility for my energy, I learn that it’s about enjoying the journey itself. It’s about being aware of when I fall out of alignment, being light and easy with myself, and coming back home to my truth. This is the process that strengthens my pleasure during the transformational journey while in my human body." - Chapter 5,  Blame It On My Soul

Self Care is an everyday practice. Fall in love with the routine.

"Transformation is timeless. It is created by cycles. Once you understand these cycles, each time you go through them they will be easier than the last. You will be able to truly stand in your greatness, your strength, and your softness as a heart warrior. Always remember to come home – to your body, mind, and soul – and you won’t be let down. Fall madly in love with yourself, become your own best lover. You deserve it.  

Like my experiences with vacation vibration, success doesn’t only come when we’re pushing through obstacles and fears. Sometimes it’s as easy as surrendering to the present moment. Of course both ways are important to master. So many incredible, successful, badass leaders who are here to make magic need regular reminders about the importance of self-care. We can fall so deeply in love with our mission, impact, and business that they all become prioritized before ourselves. I challenge you to see if this way of living is truly serving you?  

Can you remember and balance out the importance of rest time and go-time? Notice how much better your results are when you relax into your precious cycles of go time and recharge. Take the time to listen so you can give your body, mind, and soul exactly what they are asking from you." - Chapter 6, Blame It On My Soul

You’re exactly where you need to be for your best self to emerge.

"Sometimes greatness is not this big thing, but rather, it's the choices we make and the way we show up in those in-between moments. For me with my Nana, it was that moment when I decided to book my flight to Ohio. It was the moment where I decided to share my video and expose my truth to all that were about to be watching at my album release party. It was the time where I began to forgive and still hold love for the man who cheated on me. It’s the times when no one is watching and you still decide to take the higher ground, embodying the greatness that you are. As you choose your greatness, others will either see it or feel it, inspiring them to choose the same. This ripple effect will spread farther than you will EVER know. You can look at a map and see all the places you’ve been. You can even look back on your phone and computer and see all the people who you’ve taken photos with in the last few years. But you can’t possibly track each and every person you’ve inspired through this ripple effect. No map will be able to show you the true results. Trust and believe in what you’re sharing with the world and hold in your heart a deep knowing that your message and work will affect the exact people you were hoping to touch.  

If you’re experiencing your external life as incongruent with how you feel internally, there may be something that can now be EMBODIED, not just mentally understood. The human mind is quite complex. But there’s nothing as powerful as fully embodying the lessons you learn into your everyday life. When you choose to embody your lessons and your greatness, then you can open your eyes to see a world that is in greater alignment with your internal state. Look in the mirror to yourself. See the magic. Then look into the world. Continue to see the magic." - Chapter 7, Blame It On My Soul

Have people or tools in place to remind you of the magic during the times when you forget it’s there.

"Sometimes the hardest thing to do after going through transformation is to become aware of how much you’ve changed. Once you transform, give yourself time to become aware of the changes. Then you can share your experience with your loved ones. That is the next step! If you don’t take time to notice your own transformation and share it with others, all the personal work you’ve done can be easily forgotten. Sometimes life will throw you a big pile of you know what and suddenly all the magic slips into the depths of your mind. The transformation gets covered in cobwebs.

When something transforms in your life, it feels like magic. At first, you’re so excited, but then on your way to work you get a flat tire. You get the tire changed and then the engine goes out on you. Then you get home to a flooded kitchen. It can feel like all of the “magic” and transformation just vanished. To avoid falling into this trap, make sure you set yourself up for success by allowing the people around to help you celebrate your magic and transformations. Not only because it’s fun to take the time to enjoy the changes, but also so they can help remind you when you need those extra words of wisdom in your ears." - Chapter 8, Blame It On My Soul

The Most Important Journey Is The One Back HOME.

"I continue to travel around the world to see new perspectives, understand new cultures, and meet new inspiring people. I’ve discovered the power of retreating to far away lands and I’ve found the difference between retreating to take space intentionally versus running away to hide. Now I know the most important journey is the one back HOME. Back to SELF. Back to UNITY. No matter where I am in the world. No matter how many maps you look at, how many places you want to go explore, or the new people you want to meet; never forget that there’s an incredibly beautiful journey awaiting your attention within yourself. How many thoughts have you fully explored, to discover their root cause? How many beliefs have you asked, where did YOU come from? How many times have you asked yourself where your soul wants to go and drawn yourself a map to get yourself from point A to point B? How many times have you reintroduced the “old” you to the “new” you. This is the journey for the warriors, the change makers, the system breakers, the game changers, the leaders, the lights, and the lovers. Are you in for the ride?" - Chapter 9, Blame It On My Soul

Together we can innovate a new world, one message at a time.

"One human at a time. It can all start out from a story.  When it’s connected to emotions, it becomes even more powerful. That’s why the power of personal storytelling, whether it's in relationships, creativity or business, can be so impactful and can connect us deeper than anything else. 

I see this happen when my clients are about to launch a new business. Usually all their fears come up and they start to question why they are charging their new price, who will pay, and if they/their program is worth it. Sometimes fears can be so deep that they bring guilt. These fears can make you even feel bad about launching or taking that big leap. You must be able to coach yourself through that, or have a coach to support you in moving through your blocks because YOUR WORK IS SO NEEDED!!! Every time I show up in service and put my ego behind me, people are thrilled and so grateful!!" - Conclusion, Blame It On My Soul